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watch the video recording of dreaming our futures + embodying our dreams 12.6.25
(available through january 2, 2026)

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relief / getting out of a rut december 2025

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songspell for relief / getting out of a rut.

dream reading by alexa dexa.

alexa dexa's dreaming our futures + embodying our dreams oracle//composition card reads "relief / getting out of a rut". it features purple and blue and pink crayon colors just sort of scribbled vertically up and down inside of a sort of cloud shape.

Okay. I’m gonna start us out with a little dream reading with my dreaming our futures + embodying our dreams oracle//composition deck. And this is just to give us like a little potential anchor point for our dreams or insights into things that might be beautiful dreaming scenarios or reminders.

And you know, with anything, if it resonates and feels good, we can work with it. If it’s not feeling good for you, you can bring your own dreams to the table. Any dreams that you’re wanting to be dreaming, any reminders, any messages that’ll help you move into dream space, all of these things are welcome. and more! And so I’m just shuffling. and the cards are large. And I’m just gonna take one from the middle ‑‑ okay. And this one ‑‑ oh, okay this one reads relief / getting out of a rut, and the imagery – it’s a little crayon drawing of some sort of like cool colors, purples and blues and pinks just sort of scribbled vertically up and down inside of a sort of cloud shape.

relief / getting out of a rut feels very personal to me at the moment and tied in to the idea of nourishment. it’s very easy to ‑‑ if you are juggling a lot of things ‑‑ for me, I don’t want to speak for everybody but, in juggling a lot of things, the easiest thing to stop juggling is a thing that’s like just for you. and so i think this sort of like getting out of a rut, this relief to me feels like a tie in to nourishment as well with really allowing relief into your life. really thinking about whatever the ruts are that are really kind of grooved into your routines or into your sort of day to day. and some of them maybe we can’t control them. but some of them maybe we can. or maybe we can shift them a little bit in a different direction, in a new direction. But that sort of takes a little bit of relief coming in. it takes a form of a recognition and then a change.

And so in what ways is having ‑‑ if we are offering ourselves relief or offering relief outward, is that also a way of getting out of a rut? of swapping up energies, of welcoming in something new?

So if that’s something that feels good for you to dream on, that’s an offering.

There is a little spell poem that goes with the card:
relief / getting out of a rut
a practice of pausing
leaning into support
and out of what we know
not to be working
So that’s a little spell, a little something we can choose dream on.

the songspell we co-crafted together is written in alexa dexa's handwriting in purple on a pink glitch art background. beyond the pink glitch float a soft blur of green ruffles in warm golden light. all text is shared under libretto heading.

libretto co-crafted by all.


relief
/ getting out of a rut

seeking relief
by not pushing myself too far
and by listening to my body

relief is one of the best feelings
like from simple joys
to big weight
off the shoulders

bad day
will be coming and going
as pain allows

ruts can be stabilizing
in what we have done
but they can also trip us up
if we need to change

feeling relief
by joining this space
with kin
and having a moment
to breathe
and ground
after a stressful week
/ holiday time

sensing this rut
could become
a cozy nest
a warren
of acceptance

may we find inertia
to be grounding
allowing ourselves
to let go
of the shoulds
that do not serve us

hearing others
brings relief
to my lonely
achy soul

relief at seeing
i have always
had my power

post-retrograde
exhale
after-nap
clarity

like a rock in a stream
firmly and effortlessly
redirecting the insistence
of what others think
is good enough
and making space
for the flow
of what actually is

sending love to all
i use a rut
as a way that my body
is telling me
to slow down
remain grounded
and breathe
search for peace

the ache in my left knee
is asking me to rest

meeting my
body’s request
is my spell

relief is asking for help
surrendering to warm water
nestling into rest
letting go
of what no longer
serves me

ruts are hurtful for me
but perhaps necessary
marinating times
to build up to the time
to move on
but scary chasms
relief is seeing
the rut’s edges

the ruts of a dirt road
show the path most travelled
the less travelled roads
have path markers
not ruts
maybe

crashing
can be the rut
and the relief
having to stop
and getting to stop

when swimming in a wave-filled sea
my snorkle fills with salty sea water
momentarily, i am unable to take in
the air i need to breathe
i do not allow this to stop me
from seeing the bright numerous
colorful sea creatures
i take action
exhale hard
blowing the salt water
out of my snorkle
to remove the obstruction
to the air i need
and now i feel RELIEF
as i breathe in fresh air
now that the obstruction
has been removed
and i enjoy my surroundings
again

sound description by danilo machado.


[metal clanking keeping time]
[soft gong reverberates]
[metal clanging continues along with the gongs]
[sweet bells along rougher sounds]
[guitar strings strummed]
[recorder softly blowing]
[alexa hums and begins the words]
[cringle of a package]
[bell clangs, joined by another tap on the gong]
[metals bent to reverb]
[alexa sustains a hum]
[alisia speaks a line from the libretto into the opening of the bell]
[more guitar strums tangy sounds]
[Alex continues playing chords as Alisia speaks more of the libretto into his fist]
[jules echoes singing]
[metal taps interwined with guitar chords steady]
[Alisia blows whistle and alexa starts to sing the words of the spell]
[there’s a wind along with echoes and loops]
[alexa’s voice is patient and melting]
[others hum in]
[harmonic joining deepens range of tones]
[the flow of sound continues, some elongated, some prickly]
[“but scary chasms” repeat]
[one voice braids another]
[voices sit in the space between guitar strings]
[sighs, claps, snaps]
[crystalline thinkings of the toy piano]
[the bell confirms this is an announcement, this is attention]
[coughs]
[the gong continues]
[whistle between conversational voice]
[music box makes noises small as small as it is]
[breath]
[voices continue interweaving like threads knit cozy]
[sometimes the voices are short, sometimes they are long— levels of insist and of slow]
[a fork clangs]
[a bell cuts through the soundscape unevenly]
[“listening to my body” repeats as the reminder spell it is]
[audible exhale]
[the music box winds again, twinkling]
[soft clapping among overlapping words]
[the sound of the spell slows and until a refrain of vowels returns]
[a fork against a cup, a body asking me to rest]
[bed shifts, fabric, waves, scratching of soft animals]

dreamy set from DJ Queer Shoulders.

my future (but it’s the sad part only) // billie eilish
dreaming of you // selena
only when i’m dreaming // minnie riperton
dream a little dream of me (remix)
teenage dream (80s remix) // katy perry
dreamer // laufey
dream // madison mcferrin
you make my dreams (cover) // pomplamoose
back to the future // arthur moon
dreamer // charli xcx
dream of you // genix
heads will roll (a-trak remix) /// yeah yeah yeahs
dream of you // lara
sweet dreams (steve angello remix) // eurythmics
what dreams are made of (ole remix) // hillary duff
my future (aletna remix) // billie eilish)

connect with DJ Queer Shoulders

group screenshot <3

group screenshot of folks joining for dreaming our futures + embodying our dreams. from left to right / top to bottom we have alexa dexa, bec miriam, x, gaitrie persaud, alisia, jules, bailey, JD, josie, danilo machado, moira williams, cynthia ling lee, denice, peter, kirby, rachel economy, dax, alexa, yuliya, krista miranda, loa, michele dickson, jen, melissa margolis, ad, and ryland.

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